Job search does not differentiating from love search..
Multiple HR's looking at your CV, a lot of them, different people, with different education and DNA.
Candidate partners evaluating you style, your energy, your body, your face, your money maybe your
job situation...
There always gonna be one who will "short-list you", you may get in the list but then be rejected, you may also be finally approved from "the one". SO what does this mean? Is it a confirmation that you do deserve to have this partner or this job...NOT AT ALL. It is pure timing, pure coincidende, it has probably nothing to do with your inner-self but with your studies, your hair, your education, your eyes, your whatever may have "attracted" your employer or your potential partner, but this is not YOU, it is just a fragment of YOU. Whoever choose or does not choose you is just one person who made its own decision based on specific parameters, which does not mean that you are not worth or worth of something big or tiny. What I am saying is that we should not take things so personally and in a judgemental way, of course we have to think and understand about what is really, deeply happening in our lives and improve ourselves in the professional and personal sector BUT we should not take any rejection in work or love, as a personal success or failure, because it is not either SUCCESS OR FAILURE, it is just timing, luck...and time will always come for us if we have all our senses acute, if we see and realize things, if we listen and not just hear, if we smell and not just eat, if we really feel people around us and not just pass them by.
Days ago I wrote in my blog that job hunting is a "hell of a job" and I now realise that also looking for the real love that satisfies your heart can be a similar hell of a job, generally chasing something you believe that you need or deserve, can be a really stressfull process and if you want to succeed and go out of it healthy and self-developed, you need to access the outcome carefully without personal judgement and critisism, without dissapointment and feeling of inferiority. All this is firstly to get you what you want and secondarily to protect you, so that you don't loose yourself during this process.
I use to critisize "on-line dating" sometime ago when all this industry started, but now I do not. Not sure I would dare to go for it, but I understand people that go for it. I realized during the past 4 years how painfull and character-changing process can be generally "the hunting", especially in our times when people get judged every single day by everyone, society, friends, family, recruiters, lovers, possible partners...it's a process that can change you, make you a better person or lead you in a loosing-yourself-path which can be enough serious for your life.
So, just to conclude, the parallelism between job search and partner search made me understand that they do exist strong similarities. One fundamental thing that need to be fullfilled before getting what you want is that you need to have found yourself and be sure of what you want. If that is not happening prior to your hunting then the outcomes can make your life difficult.
So, go find yourself, look inside of you deeply, and the rest of your life will flow like a river...easy and enjoyful...
