How can you make a not so sociable guy to go out and increase his sociable skills....
I recently realised that almost all my male friends are not so sociable, they are very sensitive men and they love staying within their comfort zone, where usually around there lies their pc, the TV, the play station...
But let me remind them first the following points:
1. It is not as good to chat with a girl in picture on line as to meet a girl face-to-face and bring it even further if you want.You miss the energy, the sparkle, the touch...you miss it all!!!!
2. In front of your pc there are no chances to have a very interesting conversation with a man or a woman because it ll be virtual and virtual is not real!!!! It may seem real but it is not!!!
3. Comfort zone is an area where you feel safe, you feel protected, you do not challenge yourself, it is just you or you and some people you already feel comfortable with, therefore it's a place where there is no confrontation, no challenge, no change, no development...it is a static place where things DO NOT happen!!!!
4. Usually a non sociable guy is also a shy guy which means that it might be the kind of guy who prefers to go out and drink a bit in order to feel better and to socialize, go ahead do it, it's better than staying at home watching the same movie, or the same website or posting in fb...if you push a bit yourself in order to feel how nice it is to abandon your comfort zone you might slowly realize that you are no longer in need of alcohol to socialize, as people like you anyways!!!!
5. The annoying thing about these guys (this type of guys) is that they are lovely people, very sensitive, interesting, very cute and often beautiful guys and they prefer staying at home than going out ...then what we (woman) find out there are the shit Latin lover loud guys who speak to you as if you are one of the other million of woman in the pub they'd go to bed with and they are far too arrogant....not hesitating in anything!!!!!! And the cute guys are at home, probably alone!!!! It is not a nice balance isn't it?
6. However, I must say I know pretty well these guys...because first of all they attract my attention because they are the opposite than me and I find this very intreguing, very sexy, so usually they are the kind of men I choose for partners. Also being shy means usually that you think more than you talk..so it is not rare that they are also overanalysing a lot of situations inside theit mind...which I find cute because I like thinking people, they are like me!!!!! I know them pretty well because if I do not like them at first glance, they choose me as a friend because they find my self confidence relaxing and they are interested in me somehow...they find me friendly and they happily chat with me...so we can easily become friends just because I do not intimidate them (I do intimidate some, but not the majority thank God).
So...this was just the introduction...now what do you do to stop this situation and release yourselves a bit????
I recently realised that almost all my male friends are not so sociable, they are very sensitive men and they love staying within their comfort zone, where usually around there lies their pc, the TV, the play station...
But let me remind them first the following points:
1. It is not as good to chat with a girl in picture on line as to meet a girl face-to-face and bring it even further if you want.You miss the energy, the sparkle, the touch...you miss it all!!!!
2. In front of your pc there are no chances to have a very interesting conversation with a man or a woman because it ll be virtual and virtual is not real!!!! It may seem real but it is not!!!
3. Comfort zone is an area where you feel safe, you feel protected, you do not challenge yourself, it is just you or you and some people you already feel comfortable with, therefore it's a place where there is no confrontation, no challenge, no change, no development...it is a static place where things DO NOT happen!!!!
4. Usually a non sociable guy is also a shy guy which means that it might be the kind of guy who prefers to go out and drink a bit in order to feel better and to socialize, go ahead do it, it's better than staying at home watching the same movie, or the same website or posting in fb...if you push a bit yourself in order to feel how nice it is to abandon your comfort zone you might slowly realize that you are no longer in need of alcohol to socialize, as people like you anyways!!!!
5. The annoying thing about these guys (this type of guys) is that they are lovely people, very sensitive, interesting, very cute and often beautiful guys and they prefer staying at home than going out ...then what we (woman) find out there are the shit Latin lover loud guys who speak to you as if you are one of the other million of woman in the pub they'd go to bed with and they are far too arrogant....not hesitating in anything!!!!!! And the cute guys are at home, probably alone!!!! It is not a nice balance isn't it?
6. However, I must say I know pretty well these guys...because first of all they attract my attention because they are the opposite than me and I find this very intreguing, very sexy, so usually they are the kind of men I choose for partners. Also being shy means usually that you think more than you talk..so it is not rare that they are also overanalysing a lot of situations inside theit mind...which I find cute because I like thinking people, they are like me!!!!! I know them pretty well because if I do not like them at first glance, they choose me as a friend because they find my self confidence relaxing and they are interested in me somehow...they find me friendly and they happily chat with me...so we can easily become friends just because I do not intimidate them (I do intimidate some, but not the majority thank God).
So...this was just the introduction...now what do you do to stop this situation and release yourselves a bit????
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